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“We knew what we wanted in our mouths: steak and cock.”

October 3, 2009 · Leave a Comment

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I sometimes regret the invention of the category “gay.”

In the late 1970s I became friends with Michel Foucault, and he and I disagreed about gay identity as well. I never quite understood his position, which struck me as ambiguous. He’d given an early interview to the French gay magazine Gai Pied (which Foucault had named) without letting his name be cited in the article. He was fascinated by gay life, especially sadomasochistic scenes in San Francisco, and never was there a more self-conscious and highly organized subculture than that one. Yet Foucault was very much against identity politics and “the culture of avowal,” by which he meant a culture that thought every individual had a secret, that that secret was sexual, and that by confessing it one had come to terms with one’s essence. He traced the need to avow to the early Christian church, which had been obsessed by evil thoughts even more than evil deeds (the pagan world had worried only about the deeds).* I could understand his objections to the Oprah-like emotionality and the revival-meeting “change of heart” so appealing to Americans, but it did seem to me undeniable that “coming out” was still a liberating moment, especially since most gays could “pass” as straight and still did, to their own harm. Yes, it might be wrong to consider one’s sexuality to be the key to one’s identity—and in the ultimate scheme of things perhaps gay identity politics have led to an easy packaging and commodification of our experience, a trivialization of the bacchic rites (“Yeah, I’m a power bottom into domination but not pain, highly verbal, into role-playing of the coach-athlete sort but no scat or blood, please, though water sports are fine”). Nevertheless, what we desire is crucial to who we are. I agree with Nietzsche, who said, “For what does one at present believe in more firmly than one’s body?” To be fair, Foucault was combating all general ideas, all categories, and what he clung to as a good positivist were particular facts, tiny clusters of verifiable events. I wouldn’t dare to defend gay identity against such a convincing argument, but I would still say that people who are oppressed by an entire society can free themselves only by taking on that entire society and redefining the terms that were imposed on them, switching all the minuses to pluses.

EDMUND WHITE, from his new memoirs City Boy: My Life in New York During the 1960s and ’70s New York : Bloomsbury, 2009, p. 185-86.

Photo: Mine Shaft Dress Code, Leather Archives and Museum, Chicago. Originally uploaded by Adventurestan on flickr.

*Foucault – “The quest for some form of morality universally acceptable (…) seems a catastrophe to me.”

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PRIDE

June 17, 2009 · Leave a Comment

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On the occasion of Gay Pride 2009, the 40th anniversary of the Stonewall uprising, “BUTT IN ASS”embodies the mission of BUTT Magazine. Through the art of the queer community, the installation celebrates the aesthetic of BUTT, and exemplifies the ethic of protest against injustice.

DATE: Monday, June 22nd through Friday, July 3rd, 2pm -10pm

LOCATION: Asia Song Society (ASS), 45 Canal Street, New York, N.Y. (between Orchard & Ludlow)

FINALLY, somebody gets it right. Kudos to BUTT, ASS, the queer artists, and (a new found respect for) American Apparel

In Toronto Friday June 26: ‘VAZALEEN SHAME’ w/ MEN, DJ WILL MUNRO, Lynn T $10.00 adv or at the door @ Lee’s Palace.

BUTT in ASS in 30 Seconds

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“I was wrong.”

June 14, 2009 · Leave a Comment

 

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Many civil marriages are not considered “holy matrimony” by religious institutions because they do not conform to the rules of the religious institution. Those marriages have not challenged religious liberty. We must see that civil marriage, which has always been separate from religious marriage, will remain so.

But most important, gays and lesbians have suffered too long from legal discrimination, social marginalization and even violence. They are entitled to clear recognition of their equal status as citizens of a country that is founded on the principle that we are all inherently worthy. By delivering a clear message that same-sex couples can no longer be treated as separate and unequal in New York, we will also reduce discrimination in everyday life. We will all be better for that.

 

TOM SUOZZI, Why I Now Support Gay Marriage”, New York Times, June 12, 2009


As a gay libber, I was never a big fan of marriage (though, being a good Christian boy, it was how I was raised, à la ex-Miss California), and I would have never dreamed that something as backward and archaic as institutionalized marriage would become our great equalizer. Surprise. People still wanna “make it legal”. It remains our primary public display of celebrating/declaring our great loves (and alternately, our big mistakes). Everybody should be given the right to fuck it up, repeatedly.

There’s really only one reason this remains at issue. Bigoted, non-gay (in every sense of the word) people, often religious, simply don’t want to say it’s okay. “It’s not okay, it’s wrong.” They say it’s not them, it’s their god that doesn’t approve (I can’t imagine a god who cares whether you match penises or vulvas when it comes to sex, romance, or choosing life partners—people find/fall out of love and make babies and other messes in all kinds of ways—that ain’t gonna change). No, they just don’t want to tell their little Bobbie or Billy it’s okay if you want to marry a boy or a girl and that gender isn’t an issue. Marriage is between “one man and one woman”, because, god forbid, anyone might ever think, even imagine, it could be anything other than “straight”.  ( “C’mon guys, what are you asking me here?!” ) And I’ve tasted enough married straight men to know that goes without question.*

Poor believers, bearers of “the truth”. The same damning believers who have crossed continents for centuries to practice their religious bent—who kill/terrorize others who don’t—fighting the good/god fight all the way to the destruction of all mankind for their rapturous, o-so-holy beliefs. Suicide believers who kill/die with the same cry of “not I, but god”, destroying the love/lives of all who aren’t like-minded, of the faith. Are different. 

Yes, I’m speaking to you “one way” [American] Christian “soldier” (and you too, Catholic follower of “The Rat”). And you, bloody Muslim whose sharia law stones lovers to death. And you, intolerant orthodox Jew. 

The whole sufferable, murderous unholy bunch of you. You and your puny, selfish, hateful, ugly, little-piddly-assed-no-good, “god”.

This world has suffered you and your abject puniness for far, far, far too long.

You are so ten minutes ago.

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Cartoon: Mr. Fish

Why I Recently Walked Away From Christianity

How extraordinarily dangerous love is

*Come to think of it, being Canadian, I’ve tasted a fair share of gay married men, too. And priests. And firemen (gay, straight, “other”, of various faiths, races, backgrounds). Past the initial lick, they all taste about the same. D—lish!

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Saving Ted.

February 11, 2009 · 2 Comments

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To say I have no empathy for Ted Haggard would place me alongside his more spiritual, vengeful, unforgiving followers who defrocked and banished him, his family, from his own New Life [Mega]Church in Colorado. This is, first and foremost, a story about how the Church treats its own.

Not a new story. Gays have been killed, wished dead, tossed out of their families for centuries. If not in the name of Christ, in the name of whatever evil, authoritarian church/state executes power over our own bodies.

If Christ is a liberator, nobody told American Evangelicals.

It’s also the age-old story of living the double life of a liar. Ted Haggard clearly had good reasons to lie. I mean, come on, all gays know they’ve got to lie to live, let alone to get anywhere in this world. This is “don’t ask, don’t tell”, “I believe marriage is between one man and one woman” (in successive attempts), America. You don’t want people to know. To find out. Not your family. Not your job. Not your church, for crissakes. I mean, you just know what they’ll do to you. They’ll strip you. You’ll lose it all. You’ll lose everything.

They’ll crucify you. (Again, not a new story).

I don’t know Mr. Haggard. We’ve never met outside of his rather sizable media reach. Based on his television persona alone, this is not a man I would seek to share closeness with or befriend. To me, he puts the snake in snake oil. Still, he got tens of thousands, perhaps millions, to believe in his lie. Not the truth in Christ that sets the captive free, but the lie that you can’t be a man and lie down with another man and live freely, openly, to tell the story.

You can’t be gay like Jesus.

(O Mary, don’t ask.)

So, once again, we have a story of a man who cheated, lived a lie, duped his family, parishioners, told countless of thousands of gay kids to “fight the good fight” (or die trying), selling his empty bag of goods, quotable sound bites, biblical gumdrops to cherry-picked tow-the-hard-line believers who never falter in the truth…

but are always caught in the lie.

Ted, I don’t blame you for lying. For believing the lies. For becoming a real good liar. A great liar. Top of your game “truth pedlar.” There’s some unique, albeit disingenuous, craft in that.

And, I don’t blame you for so badly wanting to be straight. To continue to sit the same pew with the people who compare you to murderers. Lower than murderers. Hitler. Scum. Exiling you and your family to perish. Fend for yourselves.

Hell, I’d even forgive you for denying Christ a third time. You can live in denial for the rest of your god-given, life insurance selling days.

But I’d never ask even one of my gay (or non-gay) sisters, brothers, to pick up their nets and follow you.

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Never blend in.

December 7, 2008 · Leave a Comment

At my first screening of Milk, I came with a critical eye. There’s a lot of history here to recreate/relive. I had lived voraciously through its time in the States as a very public, fuck’m in the streets, gay activist, relishing my criminality, hating straights, hating myself, dancing my tits off most nights through university backed with my daily pursuit to service any number/variety of hot men over eight inches, 24/7, par excellence. So, I knew the scene, the politics, the Briggs, the Anita Bryants, (the Ted Haggards). The Harvey Milk story is gay America’s Martin Luther King story, already brilliantly chronicled in Rob Epstein’s 1985 Oscar-winning documentary The Times of Harvey Milk, based on Randy Shilts’ The Mayor of Castro Street (with yet another feature film in the works), and thirty years later, the same religious hegemonic crap is being protested in America today. Only back then, it was hardly about anything so trite as “gay marriage”. “Never Blend In” is the film’s promotional byline. Beyond King, the gay movement was a battle cry for liberation, FREEDOM baby, for ALL! For everyone. The “us” that Milk speaks of is everyone outside the “establishment”, the Man, any “authority” over our bodies. That great, idyllic, promise of American freedom, still only a dream, for those few who can still afford to dream.

And dream we must. But we must also live.

On a recent second viewing, I let this glorious gem of a film tell me its story, and O, what a story. An American story. An only in America story, because, lest we forget, America’s first impulse is to fight, first, foremost, and always. America was built (continues to be) on the conquer and slaughter of entire nations. Americans fight for everything, including their causes. You can’t win without a fight. And Americans can only win. (This, so brilliantly on display in yet another timely American film, Frost/Nixon). Number 1. We never quit. This is America.

The rights of Americans have all been hard fought for. Killed for. While I heartily welcome, invite other, un-American approaches, it’s inherently the American way.

The fight continues. And, we the people, will prevail.

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“to strive in the path of God.”

July 21, 2008 · Leave a Comment

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“Sex is one of the better parts of life, I think.”

April 12, 2008 · 1 Comment

I want to be romantic, not to be taken for granted, to be kissed a lot, to be told I’m loved. I want the country life, and he must like chickens and cattle, and baking and eating, and drinking champagne and wine. He must know how to enjoy life and not be afraid to get some shit on his shoes and some dirt under his fingernails. I want somebody who is going to be honest and monogamous and very sexual. My early sexual experiences formed a big part of what I like now sexually, and it really stripped away my inhibitions. I enjoy sex immensely and I feel very comfortable expressing myself. Sex is one of the better parts of life, I think.

Steven Preston interviewed* by WILL FELLOWS, Farm Boys: Lives of Gay Men from the Rural Midwest

Wow . . . that pretty much sums it up for some. So knowingly forthright and succinct. Refreshing.

“Once a farm boy always a farm boy.”

*At the time of our interview, Steven was living on a small hobby farm in southern Wisconsin and working as a nurse. (Not pictured).

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“Guess I can’t get away with it anymore.”

February 16, 2008 · Leave a Comment

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“Get away with what?”

“Well, summer in Provincetown can be pretty tough.”

He makes an impatient sound with his tongue, as if I’m being a fool. “People are far too concerned about aging these days,” he said, slightly irritated. “Gay people especially.”

“Well, gay culture is pretty youth-oriented.”

“Don’t you believe it. That’s your own fairy tale, concocted in your own head for your own reasons, If you choose to believe such things, there’s nothing I can do to change your mind.”

“Well, I guess if you don’t play the game, you don’t have to follow the rules.”

“There was a man once a long time ago who came up here to live. Name of Henry Beston. Wrote a book about this place, what it’s really like, what it’s really about. You should read it. I can quote you some of it. Some of his words float around in my head every day: ‘The world is sick to its thin blood for lack of elemental things, for fire before the hands, for water welling from the earth, for air, for the dear earth itself underfoot.’ “

He looks over at me. “That’s what you need be thinking about, not how old you’re getting.”

WILLIAM J. MANN, The Men From The Boys

The other day I saw a young swimmer in the surf. He was, I judged, about twenty-two years old and a little less than six feet tall, splendidly built, and as he stripped I saw that he must have been swimming since the season began, for he was sunburned and brown. Standing naked on the steep beach, his feet in the climbing seethe, he gathered himself for a swimmer’s crouching spring, watched his opportunity, and suddenly leaped headfirst through a long arc of air into the wall of a towering and enormous wave. Again and again he repeated his jest, emerging each time beyond the breaker with a stare of salty eyes, a shake of the head, and a smile. It was all a beautiful thing to see: the surf thundering across the great natural world, the beautiful and compact body in its naked strength and symmetry, the astounding plunge across the air, arms extended ahead, legs and feet together, the emerging stroke of the flat hands, and alternative rhythms of the sunburned and powerful shoulders.

Watching this picture of a fine human being free for the moment of everything save his own humanity and framed in a scene of nature, I could not help musing on the mystery of the human body and of how nothing can equal its rich and rhythmic beauty when it is beautiful or approach its forlorn and pathetic ugliness when beauty has not mingled in or has withdrawn. Poor body, time and the long years were the first tailors to teach you the merciful use of clothes! Though some scold to-day because you are too much seen, to my mind, you are not seen fully enough or often enough when you are beautiful. All my life it has given me pleasure to see beautiful human beings. To see beautiful young men and women gives one a kind of reverence for humanity (alas, of how few experiences may this be said), and surely there are few moods of the spirit more worthy of our care than those in which we reverence, even for a moment, our tragic and bewildered kind.

My swimmer having gone his way, out of a chance curiosity I picked the top of a dune goldenrod, and found at the very bottom of a cocoon of twisted leaves the embryo head of the late autumnal flower.

HENRY BESTON, The Outermost House

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The Two Merrys

December 25, 2007 · Leave a Comment

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Me & Joseph

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